I have been working really hard to practise some detachment.
They say that practise makes perfect – I have yet to find out!
I am trying to separate people from their actions.
When I see a child misbehave I find it easy to to know that I don’t see a bad child, I see a child whose behaviour is not very good.
When I experience an adult whose behaviour is not very good I don’t find it so easy to differentiate their behaviour from them. I don’t find it so easy to know that there is a person who is behaving in a selfish way, I tend to think there is a selfish person.
It’s a struggle for me at the moment.
I am trying to look at the bright side which is that I do know there is a struggle. At least this acknowledges that I am aware of the difference.
At an intellectual level I do know that the person is not their behaviour, I just struggle with knowing it at a heart level right now.